Showing posts with label problems. Show all posts
Showing posts with label problems. Show all posts

Wednesday 25 February 2009

Relapse plan


One thing that can often help people who suffer from mental illness is to be able to recognise their personal early warning signs and symptoms of relapse and illness. It is often helpful to try and identify stressors and triggers that contribute to illness. It is equally helpful to identify not only weaknesses, but also strengths that can be called upon to help in time of need. Having recognised what these signs and symptoms are the next stage is to create a relapse plan, a sort of forward planning on what to do when things go wrong.

The relapse plan first identifies general early warning signs and then other more specific signs that come along later. One aspect of creating a relapse plan is to identify one specific early warning sign, then look at something that helps overcome it. For example, somebody may identify that one of their signs is to lose weight because they miss out meals during the day. So the plan to help may be to buy favourite foods and easy to prepare meals, setting aside time to eat regularly.  Another aspect of creating a relapse plan is to identify people:

Ø  That can be turned to for information
Ø  Whose opinion and advice you value
Ø  To share ideas with
Ø  Who make you think
Ø  That you can trust and confide in

It may be that just one person or several people fulfil these roles.

The objective of the exercise is twofold. Firstly, to enable people become more aware of their problems and feel more in control. Secondly, to start dealing with the problem sooner rather than later, is far better than leaving things until a crisis point is reached. Early intervention means a better prognosis.

Now before these thoughts continue it also needs to be noted that mental ‘illness’ can and does happen to everyone to one degree or another. It is not an all or nothing situation. Mental health is on a continuum and we all move up and down that continuum according to the nature and number of problems and stresses that we face. To feel low, depressed, anxious, worried or any of all the other emotions that beset us, is a normal response to life events.  For most of us, mental ill health does not become a clinical problem, but for 1 in 4 of the population it does.

So how can this relate to life in the Truth? Well we all suffer from sin and we all experience highs and lows of faith, confidence or commitment from day to day. This could be termed spiritual ill health. Sadly, there are times when those peaks and troughs become more acute and a gradual drift away from the path of salvation takes place, sin starts gaining the upper hand, the situation becomes harder to retrieve and a sort of clinical spiritual ill health sets in.

What if we could be more aware of our ‘early warning signs’ maybe that would help to avoid some pitfalls, or at least minimise their impact. If we had a pre-prepared plan of action, maybe that would help us get back onto the right path. In a very real sense, early intervention means a far better prognosis for us! However it is always hard to cope alone, so what if could identify people to turn to in a given situation, people to support, advise and guide. Not only this, each one of us having experienced sin and the problems with temptation, surely we should be more appreciative of the difficulties faced by others.

So what are your early warning signs? Some possible ones that come to mind are:

Ø  Reduced frequency of reading the scriptures
Ø  Reading quickly to ‘get the reading done’ with no time given for thoughtful contemplation.
Ø  Withdrawing from the company of other brethren and sisters
Ø  Less time spent in prayer
Ø  Attending meetings less frequently
Ø  Spending time worrying about the future and becoming disheartened
Ø  Spending more time on career, hobbies and other interests
Ø  Becoming spiritually more tired and sleepy

Add your own to the list!

What could a relapse plan be? Well first of all identify your personal warning signs. For an example it could be less frequent attending of meetings. Now the thought may run along these lines: ‘My life is busy, there are a lot of problems and pressures in life and I just cannot get to the meetings.’

Now turn it on its head. There are a lot of problems that are difficult to deal with, that is probably true.  But does worrying about the problems make them go away? The answer is an emphatic no.  Does having extra support make the problem go away, no, but it can make them easier to bear. We read:

“If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no-one to help him up! … Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” Eccl 4:10-12

Does Bible study help? Well yes, because we can always find guidance and advice in scripture to cover any given situation. Again we read:

Every purpose is established by counsel: and with good advice make war. Prov 20:18

Does this apply only to war against a physical enemy, or does it not equally apply to war against sin, our greatest and strongest enemy.

So the plan to overcome could be to make a commitment to go to meetings, even if it is difficult. It may also help to talk to a fellow brother or sister about finding it hard to attend; a problem brought out into the open often makes it less of a problem. Does not scripture say “bear one another’s burdens and so fulfil the law of Christ.” Gal 6:2 Any plan of course must also include prayer:


“Trust in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.”  Prov 3:5-6

No matter what our circumstances we always have the comfort and support of the Lord Jesus Christ, who is fully aware of our needs. All we need to do is follow his example!

So, select from your list of ‘early warning signs’ of sin something that is in the world that you find hard to overcome, then think of a plan of what you can do about it. Ask yourself the question ‘who can I turn to for help?’

An indispensible first step is to make the problem a matter of prayer, daily prayer. Then maybe think of a quote from scripture that you can use to remind yourself about what you are trying to change. Then whenever that probelm occurs, repeat the quote to yourself and then change what you do. Thought and action must go together.

Jesus in a sense gave us an example of this action plan. Remember when he was tempted he countered all temptation with, ‘it is written’.  So now put your sin relapse plan into action!

Andy P.

Wednesday 11 February 2009

Let God's promises shine on your problems

"Let God's promises shine on your problems."
- Corrie Ten Boom

"For the Son of God, Jesus Christ, ...
For all the promises of God in Him are Yes,
and in Him Amen,
to the glory of God through us."
2 Corinthians 1:19-20

Dear God, bring a solution to all my problems
and let your goodness shine on my life.

Dutch version / Nederlands > Laat Gods beloften schijnen op jouw problemen

Frans Floris - The Sacrifice of Jesus Christ, ...
Frans Floris - The Sacrifice of Jesus Christ, Son of God, Gathering and Protecting Mankind - WGA7949 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Friday 30 January 2009

Courage is fear that has said its prayers

"Courage is fear that has said its prayers."
- Karl Barth

"And when he heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth,
he began to cry out, and say,
'Jesus, thou son of David, have mercy on me.'
And Jesus stopped and said, 'Call him here.'
So they called the blind man, saying to him,
'Take courage, stand up! He is calling for you.'"
Mark 10:47, 49

I want to have courage and follow Jesus,
but I am often so weak.
Give me strength o Lord that I can take up the courage
to go through all the problems which surround me.

Dutch version / Nederlands >Moed is angst die haar gebeden heeft gezegd




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Monday 26 January 2009

Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked


Psalm 1:1-2 Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers.





Thoughts
    So often sin and ungodly lifestyles are portrayed as glamorous. The way of blessing, however, is the way of God. His will is for our good, his commands spring from his mercy and protection, and his way is the path of life. We are blessed when we walk with God and do his will.

Prayer
    Forgive me, Father, for believing the lies of the world and being deceived and enticed by temptations. I know that sin brings heartaches, complications, and problems. I also know that choosing the right things, standing up for truth, and living faithfully for you are sometimes very difficult. Please help my heart believe and my mind see that walking in your will brings me life. In Jesus' name I ask this. Amen.

Friday 12 December 2008

Preaching to an unbelieving world

We are preaching to an unbelieving world, fighting rapidly falling standards in our own community, trying to build up those scattered far and wide in the earth, caring for increasing numbers of elderly and incapacitated and those who are spiritually sick, and all the time trying to overcome our own innate personal weaknesses, problems and frustrations " So much effort, so little achieved. Sometimes it seems as if, in certain areas both at home and abroad, ecclesial life is falling apart, as it must have seemed to Paul in those early years of that ecclesia at Corinth.

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it is a day of small things.We do not have the power of the Spirit. God does not manifest Himself openly in the mighty acts of power. We have the Word of God which is quite sufficient to convince those of a right frame of mind. But these are very few in number, so few that sometimes it seems as if our preaching and our exhortation is ineffective, as if we are failing in some way. The few who do respond are those whom God has reserved, as He told Elijah. That was what God told Elijah, and Paul quotes God’s words to him in his Letter to the Romans to prove that there was in his day also a remnant according to the election of grace, and surely we trust that it is so in our own day. We believe that we are part of that remnant chosen by God by His grace, called by the gospel, responsive to that still small voice.
Yet the vast majority remains totally unmoved. Even within the community of the saints there will always be those who are not responsive. But we press on, struggling to remain part of the faithful remnant, and we are sure that in time, in God’s time, judgment will be poured out on the rebellious, the hard-hearted; not by men like Jehu, men who proved in the end to be no better than were those they destroyed, but judgment will be in the hands of One whom God raised up in righteousness.

We shall remember that this was how Paul comforted the believers in the first century who were suffering persecutions, “it is a righteous thing with God” he said, “to recompense tribulation to them that trouble you; and to you who are troubled rest with us, when the Lord Jesus shall be revealed from heaven with his mighty angels, in flaming fire taking vengeance on them that know not God, and that obey not the gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ.”
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This is the day of small things, the day for faithful service, no matter how little we seem to achieve, the day for accepting whatever difficulties and frustrations come our way as a result of that service, the day for bearing whatever burdens an all wise God sees fit to place upon His servants.

 - Bro E. T. 1986

full text > Three faithfull men