Mennonite’s first same-sex wedding

In December last year two Mennonite ministers in Canada have officiated the denomination’s first same-sex “wedding,” holding the service publicly in a “church” building in Saskatchewan.
Anita Retzlaff and Patrick Preheim of Nutana Park Mennonite Church officiated the ceremony for Craig Friesen and Matt Weins on Dec. 31, which was held at Osler Mennonite, the childhood congregation of Friesen.

“For us, a wedding is supposed to be a celebration of our commitment to each other in front of our faith communities, our other communities and God,”

 Friesen told CBC News.

 “It wouldn’t feel right if we didn’t get married in the Mennonite church.”

I do wonder if the change in their denomination also has something to do with their interpretation of love for each other? They namely do have a new series  “Abounding in Love,” which they call an engaging journey through the book of the bible, First Thessalonians.
Though in it they see Paul modelling Jesus’ passionate and compassionate heart for those he is mentoring. There are many ways they analyse this passage. 

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Canadian Mennonites Officiate First Same-Sex ‘Wedding’

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Division and defrocking because of same-sex wedding

Religious practices change all the time—just ask Catholics who celebrated mass in Latin until the 1960s or Protestant groups that started ordaining women as ministers in the 1970s. But are there certain core beliefs that can never change? 

Former Methodist minister Frank Schaefer on the division within the United Methodist Church (UMC) says:

"The church is really trying to sweep this under the rug and we're pretending we're all united, we're the United Methodist Church after all." 

For many years now several debates have gone on about celibacy and about intercourse with people of the other and of the same sex.

Conservative theologians within the United Methodist Church argue that Schaefer's defrocking was justified because church law, by definition, must be upheld — otherwise, it is not a church law. They maintain that homosexuals are welcome in the church, but that one should abstain from the practice of homosexuality. 

Schaefer says there was "no way in Hell" he would have declined when he was asked to ordain his son's same-sex wedding in 2007. "I saw it as an act of love," says Schaefer.  Others within the church saw it as an act of rebellion. 

“The ultimate debate is not over sexuality—it’s just one battle flag issue in the current culture wars that’s been going on in the last 150 years between traditionalist and liberal revisionists,”

says Mark Tooley of the Institute on Religion and Democracy, a conservative Christian think-tank in Washington, D.C.UMC is experiencing a split in opinion on gay marriage.

Read more about it in: Religious Hoi Polloi

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The Rev. Frank Schaefer with his wife after meeting with Methodist leaders on Thursday.

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  While Schaefer’s defrocking may have been meant as a warning to silence rogue pastor’s who disagree with the UMC Book of Discipline, it has arguably had the opposite effect: The church now faces a legitimate uprising by clergy members and laypeople within the denomination who passionately disagree with the church’s stance on homosexuality. The internal debate has been waging since 1972 when the first language condemning homosexual practice was introduced in the Book of Discipline.
  
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  An ordained United Methodist minister, Schaefer believed his son hid his feelings from him because of their close ties to the church — one that condemns homosexuality. His son’s fear of disapproval was so strong, he later found out, that he was contemplating suicide.
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  Fourteen years ago, Schaefer told his son that he accepted him. That he still loved him.
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  After a two-day trial in November, a jury of Methodist clergy convicted Schaefer of disobeying church law. The church conference stripped Schaefer, who has two other gay children, of his minister’s credentials a month later after he declined to uphold the Book of Discipline’s gay-marriage prohibition. The expulsion is under appeal.
  
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  Schaefer, who pleaded not guilty to the charges, could have avoided the trial if he had agreed to never again perform a same-gender wedding, but he declined because three of his four children are gay.
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  Schaefer was asked to immediately surrender his credentials, but he refused, forcing church officials to defrock him, the statement said.
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  Ewing expects the appeal to be tried some time in 2015.
  Asked of his plans until then, Schaefer said, “I will continue to be a voice for the LGBT community.”